As someone who is reading this blog, you’ve probably explored the notion of quieting the mind and increasing your study of mindfulness. We know that when we begin to reflect on our own thought processes, we become more aware of our ego, how it controls us, and how we can use it to our advantage.
One of the best things about the time we’re living in is the return to love. All around the globe people are waking up to their intuitive abilities and the Divine Feminine is on the rise. As we go through this process it’s tempting to think that the ego is evil and should be banished. If you’ve thought about the ego before, you’ve probably heard the school of thought that the ego should be removed completely.
But here’s the thing, your ego is useful.
The ego presents us with thought options and often tries to keep us small, but when you learn how to work with it, you’ll enter a state of balance that can serve you well. The key is to train your ego to work with you instead of against you. Let us explain.
It’s all about those pre-thoughts
Here’s one thing to remember: for every thought your ego suggests, there’s a pre-thought behind it. It is at this stage that you get to choose whether or not that thought is acceptable. When this happens, you can choose to modify or reject the thought.
Let’s look at a common scenario we’ve all experienced.
On the first day of fourth grade you went to school in your brand new outfit. That morning you got up, brushed your teeth, washed your face, ate breakfast, grabbed your fancy backpack and hopped in the car or got on the bus all ready to take on the world.
But when you got to school things took a turn. Your friends greeted you as soon as you got there and your day was going pretty well. The cute fifth grader you’ve been crushing on even gave you a smile, but when you got to lunch, Suzy, your old arch nemesis, made fun of your new t-shirt at lunch.
You were crushed.
From that point on, your subconscious decided to take measures to protect you. Your ego made some shifts and decided, “We’re not going through that pain again.” As a result, when you were presented with similar situations as you grew up, your ego kicked in and say, “Uh, remember when Suzy made fun of you in fourth grade, yeah, this is just like that.”
All of those pre-thoughts take place on a subconscious level, which means the trick to training your ego is to remember what triggered it to protect you in the first place, which can be painful.
Training your ego
Your ego will often kick in when you’re presented with new opportunities. Maybe you’ve been thinking about starting a business doing healing work but you’re afraid you can’t do it. You may think about how you don’t know if you’ll be able to make ends meet, what your friends and family members will think of you, and whether it’s even worth it in the first place.
That’s your ego trying to keep you from getting hurt.
The ego likes to keep us small so we don’t get hurt like we did in the past. You can let your ego have control for a while, but do you know what you’ll end up with? A whole list of missed opportunities.
Instead of letting your ego trick you into being afraid all the time, you need to take control. Train your ego to work for you by turning the thoughts it presents you with into positive ones. When your ego kicks out something like, “You can’t do that, everyone will think you’re weird.” Say something positive in return such as, “I can do that because it’s needed in the world and the Universe will support me.”
The more you train your ego to reflect positive thoughts, the more good it will help you create so you can manifest positive outcomes.